Resolve Your Divorce with Clarity, Not Chaos
This part of the site is for people who want to stay informed, organized, and in control of their divorce or separation. Instead of blindly handing everything to attorneys, you’ll learn how the system works, get your numbers clear, and choose a path that protects both your sanity and your future.
What DIY Divorce Means Here
DIY does not mean “do everything alone” or “never talk to an attorney.” It means you don’t blindly surrender your decisions, your information, and your bank account to a system that’s not designed to care about your emotional reality.
My goal is to give you a clearer map than I had—so you can:
- Understand the risks of jumping straight into litigation.
- Get your financial and practical details organized early.
- Decide when to use DIY, when to use coaching, and when mediation might be better.
- Walk into any attorney meeting with your eyes open and your paperwork ready.
Your DIY Roadmap at a Glance
Here’s the basic flow we’ll follow throughout this section of the site:
- 1. Get oriented — understand the system and what you’re walking into.
- 2. Get your numbers and documents organized.
- 3. Choose your path: DIY only, DIY + coaching, or mediation.
- 4. Use tools and support instead of reacting in crisis mode.
You don’t have to do this perfectly. You just need to move with intention instead of panic.
Where Do You Want to Start?
Different people need different things first. Use these starting points to jump into the part that matches where you are right now.
“I Need to See the Big Picture.”
Start with the Resolve Your Divorce Overview. You’ll see the phases of a divorce, common pitfalls,
and where DIY, coaching, and mediation fit in.
Go to the overview →
“I Need to Understand the System.”
Learn how the court actually works, what it does well, and where it can go off the rails—especially in high-conflict
situations.
Educate yourself on the court system →
“I Need My Numbers and Options.”
Use calculators and organizers to see your assets, debts, and budget clearly. Then look at whether DIY, coaching,
or mediation is the smartest move.
Go to divorce calculators →
When DIY Isn’t Enough
There are situations where you shouldn’t try to white-knuckle your way through this alone—especially if there’s domestic violence, severe mental health issues, or a partner who is weaponizing the system against you.
DIY + Coaching
If you want to stay in control but need a steady guide, DIY Coaching can help you plan strategy, prepare
conversations, and respond to conflict without losing yourself.
Learn about DIY-focused coaching →
Full Mediation Option
If both of you want to stay out of court but can’t communicate well on your own, mediation can provide structure and
a neutral guide.
Explore full mediation →
Book a Session Now
If you’re in active crisis or decision overload, sometimes the next right step is just talking to someone who
understands this landscape.
Book DIY divorce coaching →