Mediation After a DVTRO

When structured resolution may still be possible—and when it may not

A common question after a Domestic Violence Temporary Restraining Order (DVTRO) is whether mediation is still possible.

The answer depends on several factors, including court orders, safety considerations, and the willingness of both parties to engage in a structured, respectful process.

This page explains how mediation may occur after a DVTRO—without minimizing safety, offering legal advice, or encouraging inappropriate contact.

General Principle: Safety Comes First

Mediation is not appropriate in every situation. When there are credible safety concerns, courts and professionals may determine that mediation is not suitable.

When mediation does occur after a DVTRO, it is typically:

• Structured and carefully controlled
• Conducted through intermediaries
• Focused on practical resolution rather than emotional processing

When Mediation May Be Possible

In some cases, mediation may still be considered when:

• The court permits mediation under specific conditions
• Communication can occur without violating any orders
• Safety measures are in place
• Both parties consent to the process

This often involves indirect communication, separate sessions, or shuttle-style mediation.

When Mediation May Not Be Appropriate

Mediation may not be suitable when:

• There are ongoing safety concerns
• One party feels pressured or unsafe participating
• Court orders prohibit any form of communication
• The situation requires judicial findings rather than negotiated solutions

In these situations, other court-guided processes may be more appropriate.

The Role of Coaching in Mediation Preparation

Coaching does not replace legal advice or mediation. Instead, it can help individuals:

• Clarify goals and priorities
• Prepare emotionally for structured discussions
• Reduce reactive communication patterns
• Stay focused on resolution rather than conflict

Coaching focuses on behavior, mindset, and preparation—not negotiation strategy.

Moving Toward Resolution

Many people involved in high-conflict family cases eventually move from crisis response toward structured resolution.

Education, calm compliance, and appropriate support can help individuals navigate that transition thoughtfully and safely.