Your Control Panel for Resolving Your Divorce with Intention
This page brings all of the DIY tools into one place so you don’t have to hunt around when you’re already overwhelmed. Start where it makes the most sense for you: education, numbers, path-finding, building your binder, or getting support.
Start Here: “Divorce Corp” Documentary
Before you sign anything or hire anyone, watch how the divorce industry really works. It’s a hard look at why so many families lose their savings, homes, and peace of mind once litigation starts rolling.
- Short trailer to get the big picture in minutes.
- Full-length documentary for a deeper understanding.
- Follow-up guidance on what to do next.
Resolve Your Divorce – Overview
See the full five-phase roadmap: from understanding the system, to organizing your numbers, to choosing DIY, coaching, or mediation. This is the “zoomed-out” map of your options.
- Simple 5-phase resolution roadmap.
- Links to the right tools at each phase.
- Designed so you can come back whenever you need to re-orient.
Educate Yourself on the Court System
Learn how the court actually functions, what judges can and can’t do, and how high-conflict and mental-health-heavy cases often play out in real life.
- Plain-language explanation of the process.
- Common myths and hard truths about litigation.
- Why “more aggressive” doesn’t always mean “better.”
Divorce Calculators & Organizers
Before you can negotiate or make decisions, you need to know what you own, what you owe, and what you realistically need to live. The calculators and worksheets help you get there.
- Assets & debts organizer.
- Budget and cash-flow tools.
- Space for support estimates and “what if” planning.
Which DIY Path Fits Me?
Not everyone should do pure DIY. Some people are better served by DIY + coaching or full mediation. This simple quiz helps you identify where you fall based on conflict level, communication, and safety.
- Short, no-pressure questions.
- Results that point you to DIY, coaching, or mediation.
- Helps you avoid over-doing or under-doing professional help.
Costly Mistakes of Litigation
A focused look at the most expensive mistakes people make when they rush into court: selling the home too fast, over-trusting the process, and letting fear make the first move.
- Common traps that drain savings and stability.
- How to use attorneys more strategically.
- Questions to ask before agreeing to big moves.
Build Your California Divorce Binder
Pull everything together in one place so you’re not scrambling when the court, a mediator, or an attorney asks for documents. Forms, financials, parenting details, and support scenarios—organized and ready.
- Checklist of court forms and sections to include.
- Integrates with your calculators and organizers.
- Works for physical or digital binders.
When You Need More Than DIY
DIY gives you structure and clarity, but you don’t have to do this alone. If you’re in active crisis, dealing with a highly volatile ex, or just tired of trying to hold everything together by yourself, it may be time to add support.
DIY-Focused Coaching
Stay in control of your case while getting one-on-one guidance on strategy, communication, boundaries, and next steps. Especially helpful in high-conflict or mentally draining situations.
- Clarify your goals and bottom lines.
- Prepare for hard conversations and filings.
- Get emotional support without losing focus.
Full Mediation Option
For couples who want to avoid court but can’t communicate well on their own, mediation creates a structured space to work through parenting, finances, and property division with a neutral guide.
- Reduce conflict and attorney involvement.
- Keep more control over the outcome.
- Design agreements that fit your real life.
Talk to Someone One-on-One
If you’re overwhelmed, stuck, or scared of making the wrong move, sometimes the next right step is simply talking to someone who understands both high-conflict dynamics and the divorce system.
- Conflict-focused coaching sessions.
- DIY divorce strategy sessions.
- Space to think clearly instead of reacting.
Need the Bigger Picture?
If you’d like to see how DIY fits into everything else on this site—coaching, education, narcissistic abuse recovery, PTSD support, and more—go back to the main Navigation Hub.
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