PTSD Recovery Coaching for Life After High-Conflict and Coercive Control

Emotional and psychological abuse

• Gaslighting — being told your reality “didn’t happen” or you’re “too sensitive.”
• DARVO patterns — they Deny, then Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender so you look like the problem.
• Blame-shifting, silent treatments, and constant emotional whiplash.

Coercive control and chronic stress

• Monitoring, threats, financial control, or “walking on eggshells” around one person.
• Never knowing when the next blow-up, shutdown, or attack will happen.
• Feeling like you have to manage everything to keep the peace.

Life after leaving (or trying to leave)

• Flashbacks to past arguments or scenes that play on repeat.
• Guilt for finally setting boundaries or ending the relationship.
• Feeling numb, exhausted, or like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore.

Narcissistic abuse & coercive control

Partners, ex-partners, family members, or even “friends” who use manipulation, threats, and control instead of honest communication.

High-conflict families, roommates, and workplaces

Sibling wars, parent–child blowups, political battles at the dinner table, hostile roommates, or toxic work dynamics that leave you drained and hyper-alert.

Post-divorce or relationship collapse

You’ve ended the relationship (or it ended suddenly), but your body hasn’t caught up. You’re jumpy, shut down, or stuck in old patterns with your ex or co-parent.

PTSD Recovery Coaching IS:

• Plain-English education about trauma, triggers, and nervous system overload.
• Help untangling what happened so you stop blaming yourself for someone else’s behavior.
• Practical tools for boundaries, communication, and reducing contact or conflict.
• Planning for court, mediation, or co-parenting while protecting your emotional health.
• Support for rebuilding identity, confidence, and a life that feels like yours again.

PTSD Recovery Coaching is NOT:

• A substitute for therapy, medical care, or psychiatric treatment.
• Legal advice, representation, or instructions on what you “must” do in your case.
• Emergency crisis intervention, suicide prevention, or domestic violence shelter services.
• About diagnosing anyone — it’s about understanding patterns so you can respond differently.

We often work best alongside your therapist, attorney, or support group — helping you organize your thoughts, scripts, and next steps between those appointments.

DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender

If you’ve tried to confront harmful behavior and ended up apologizing, you’ve probably experienced DARVO. The person:

• Deny they did anything wrong.
• Attack you for bringing it up.
• Reverse Victim and Offender so they become the wounded one and you look like the abuser.

Over time DARVO can make you doubt your memory, your judgment, and even your sanity. Recovery coaching helps you rebuild trust in your own perception and feelings.

Coercive Control: Abuse without Bruises

Coercive control is a pattern of behavior that traps you in fear, obligation, and guilt — even if there is little or no physical violence. It can include:

• Monitoring your phone, social media, or spending.
• Threats about money, court, children, or reputation.
• Isolating you from friends, family, or work opportunities.

When you finally step back, your nervous system may crash — that’s often when PTSD symptoms spike. You are not weak. Your body is finally saying, “We’re not in immediate danger now; it’s safe to process.”

Self-Paced Tools

Perfect if you’re not ready to talk yet or your schedule is unpredictable. Learn at your own pace with checklists, short e-books, and video lessons.

Guided + DIY (Hybrid)

Use self-paced materials between sessions so coaching time is focused on real situations, scripts, and boundary practice — not basic definitions.

1:1 PTSD Recovery Coaching

Best if you feel alone, overwhelmed, or stuck in repeating patterns. We prioritize safety, clarity, and step-by-step plans for conversations, boundaries, and daily life.

“Why do I still miss them if they were abusive?”

Trauma bonds are real. They’re not a sign that you’re weak — they’re a sign that your nervous system learned to cling to tiny moments of calm in a storm. Part of recovery is learning to get those needs met safely, without going back into harm.

“How long will this take?”

There is no one-time “fix,” but there are absolutely patterns of healing. Many people feel measurable relief when they finally understand what happened and have a simple plan for their next 30–90 days.